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Leo women are born from July 23 to August 22. They are warmhearted and make excellent wives and mothers. If they overcome their tendency to despondency, there is no limit to their considerable talents. Leo women have birthdays from July 23 to August 22. They are extremely warm hearted and sympathetic. They love their roles as wives and mothers, and often do not seek employment outside the home. When they do, they are far better suited for mental labor rather than manual labor. They seem to inspire hope to all who come in contact with them. For that reason, they are skillful nurses and members of the clergy. By nature, Leo women are very independent and resent being commanded. They have a keen sense of judgment and rise well to the challenge of leadership roles. Leo women can adapt themselves readily to a wider range of circumstances than women of any other sign. They find it more agreeable to plan their work than to execute the details it involves. Like the lion that represents Leo, they are fond of luxury, warmth, and ease. This does not mean they’re lazy, but what they do is usually through inspiration, or when the mood strikes them. Yet when necessary they display unbound fortitude and great courage while doing what they need to do promptly and effectively. They are secretive and great at keeping a “poker face” so others are not aware of their true thoughts. Leo women have great respect for law and authority but, because of their fire sign, must guard against being hot-headed so they do not get in trouble with the law. Leo women cannot bear to be neglected by the men they love. “Love me or I die” could be their motto. They need to take caution against young or hasty marriages. In most instances it is advisable that they wait until they are well settled in life before marrying someone of equal social and intellectual standing. These wonderous women have the greatest love for their family. In the rearing of their children they use their great wisdom and do not rely heavily on advice from others. Mothers of this sign are gentle and tender and display great ferocity toward those who cause their children any grief. The sign Leo rules over the heart. Their diet should be wholesome and meals should be quiet, orderly, and calm. Temperate habits and a harmonious home life are essential to the health and happiness of Leo women. When this doesn’t happen, heart problems can result. However, these women have great vitality and can soon recover from many serious ailments. Despite their considerable talents, Leo women must guard against despondency and depression. When these appear, it is best to sum up faults and weaknesses. Self control is essential. Courage is there to look facts in the face and use self control to start anew with fresh resolves. They will never know true happiness and prosperity if they permit others to toss their emotions around without following their better judgment. The secret of success lies in their genial manner which enables them to keep in sync with those around them. When they conquer their faults, there is no limit to the wonderous things Leo women can do. The Leo personality is known to be the performer or actor or actress of the zodiac. Leo is a fire sign and their ruling planet is the sun. Leos are usually warm, loving and generous. Their kind gestures comes from their big hearts. Leos can be very attentive to others, and usually shower others with bountiful approval and compliments. Ruled by the sun, Leos possess a lovable, childlike playfulness and a strong need for creative self expression. Leos often have trouble with vanity and pride. They sometimes find it hard to admit that they are wrong. Leos can easily compensate for any failings by their sunny personality, sense of fun and genrosity. These friendly people are ideal partners for social events, parties and long holidays. Leos have remarkable leadership skills, which usually brings them to positions of authority. Leos take charge naturally, they may be mistaken as being bossy. However, they will work hard to fulfill their responsibilities, and they make excellent managers and leaders. Lions are known for their courage and would much rather play a strong and protective role for others than be weak and defenseless. Leos presume that others possess a sense of integrity similar to their own, and they are careful to keep their sense of self respect in any disagreement. Leos are very aware of the impressions they make on others. Being a fire sign, Leos are usually lively and enthusiastic but can be stubborn. Their creativity and sense of drama combine to make them great romantics. Leos love to love and be loved. You’ll know a leo when you meet one, their dynamic personalities will leave a lasting impression.

I am alive and kicking….. I deactivated my face book account because i choose to live in the here and now… I started to notice that fb made people think they were popular, most lovable, rich and balling, and fake. They got alot of haters all of a sudden. Lmao at haters. These people dont have a pot to piss in and no real life, no real friends and irresponsible. I chose to live. Fb is not living. Its a way to keep in touch but did you notice how much new best friends people make from face book? What were you doing before? Playing with 20 cats and eating cake batter? Smh. Anyway real life has a hold on me right now and i rather live in the live not digital… No drama from my end just decided to switch it off. And it feels great. Lets get back to actually taking pictures to print out not post on face book! Lets get back to loving the people we actually know not the people we met on facebook. Anyway… I love u all and thank u for your patience.. Next blog is about the genetic ways we screw our children by mating with assholes with no IQ! Muahz

Good morning! Believe it or not its rough being a step parent. Even if ur not legal married, but u live together, ur playing the parent role. So what do u do if the kids an asshole? Do u treat them like they are yours? Or ignore them til their biological comes home? I been there. The child ended being diagnosed with ADHD, Father use to beat the living shit out of him from frustration, kid blamed it on me. I vowed, NEVER AGAIN. U deal with yours and i will deal with mines. Wrong? Maybe. Do I care? Nope. A large part why I decided to say single. My ex punched my son in the chest once, I lost it on him. I don’t want anyone telling my kids nada. And i don’t want to deal with ur’s. Single is for me. So, what would you do? Have a blessed day!

You must not shun the child Fathers. I as a mother, dont shun my children because u dont want to be there. I know all parties involved are angry, especially the men when courts are involved, but omg, the children! Are you going to let money come between this powerful bond you can have with your child? Be it one night stand or relationship, the children didnt ask to be here. its crazy that u and some moms can allow greed to cloud a judgement. When everyones in court fighting, where are the children? The streets are raising them. Then we cry. Im healing, learning, praying. Every single day. When we learn that some things are worth more then cash, then we can rise as a people. WAKE UP.

As i write, i have tears in my eyes.  I recently just did a blog about single parenting. Now its my turn to tell u what i know. Im not perfect. I try so hard and pray to not be my childrens demise. I can tell u i never calked the cops on an ex cause im mad, or key up someones car, or beat my kids cause they look like their dad. And i dont get mad that my kids look like them either. I never took someone to child support because im bitter. But i have seen it. I talked to some of my homeboys as of lately, and my heart is heavy. Heavvvvyyyy. We create dillusions in our minds. We continuously take them to court for more money, cause we think they have it like that, or because we dont like the other women. In my personal research i have also found that men get soo soo mad about the court thing, that they shun the child.

So i did some research on single parent homes, and how important it is for black men to be in the home. I also came across some statistics that were alarming. Women are damaging these young black men as well. We carry our bitterness and spill it onto our children because they look like their father/s. Look, i am not one to judge, i have four different baby fathers. If it dont work out, it just doesnt. and being married to different men, is no different. So stop that shit talk. Anyway, here it is. I am open for comments and discussion. Feel free. But i feel like i am being fair here. It will be long, and i am asking you to read it in its entirety. Thank you for being part of my world.

Study on Black Single Moms Debunks Stereotypes
Black America Web, News Report, Monica M. Lewis, Posted: Jan 05, 2005
A recent report by the U.S. Census Bureau shows that more than 80 percent of black single mothers have completed high school – an achievement that not only can aid them in raising families but one that goes a long way in debunking the stereotypes of single black mothers as welfare queens and drug abusers.

“We’ve kind of always known that black women had much stronger labor force attachments than white women,” Rutgers University professor William M. Rodgers told BlackAmericaWeb.com.

However, he said, a pay gap still exists between black and white women – as do other hurdles that make managing a one-parent household difficult for women of color.

“Many [black single mothers] have challenges due to their surroundings,” Rodgers said, adding that more often than not, black single mothers may face an array of problems, ranging from finding suitable childcare to recovering from domestic violence.

Last month, the U.S. Census Bureau released a study, “America’s Families and Living Arrangements 2003,” that explored the state of American family households. The findings, based on data collected from 2002 statistics, focused on a number of basic trends in household compositions, including living arrangements, marital status of adults, and characteristics of unmarried households.

The study doesn’t delve into the employment history of single mothers, but it can be assumed that the better a person’s education, the better their chances are to obtain and maintain gainful employment.

The number of single-mother families increased from three million in 1970 to 10 million in 2003, while the number of single-father families grew from less than 500,000 to 2 million. There are now 3.1 million black single mothers compared to 6.4 million white single mothers and 1.8 million single Hispanic mothers.

The rise in single-parent households developed, the study claims, for two main reasons – a larger proportion of births occurring in unmarried women in the 1990s than in the 1960s and 1970s and the rise in divorce among couples with children.

According to the report, approximately 1,169,000 black single mothers – or 37 percent – have graduated from high school only, compared to 2,235,000 – or 35 percent – of white single mothers. For Hispanic single mothers, that number was 586,000.

But the number of black single mothers with a bachelor’s degree or higher, 315,000, was significantly lower than that of white single mothers with comparable education, 904,000, and higher than that of Hispanic single mothers in that category, 90,000. About a million black single mothers had some college education, compared to two million white single mothers and 396,000 Hispanic single mothers.

Twenty percent of black single mothers in the study had been divorced, but 62 percent had never been married – suggesting that black single mothers – more than any ethnic group – were most likely to have never been married.

Nearly one third of all single mothers – 32 percent – live below the poverty line. However, the condition is more acute for black single mothers: 38 percent, or 1.2 million of 3.1 million black single mothers raise families below the poverty line, according to Census data.

“Single parents have a lot of constraints and pretty much, they’re going to have to rely on a relative or friend to get by at times,” said Jason Fields, author of the Census Bureau’s study.

Fields said single parenting can be a burden for women of any race.

“Certainly, it’s clear that single parents have a great deal of additional constraints and difficulties,” Fields said. “It’s well understood that married parents have the support and resources that may make life easier in some respects.”

Despite the unleveled pay structure, Rodgers said pursuing and obtaining advanced education can benefit children of black single mothers, just as much as the single mother herself.

“In the long term, improving one’s education and skills helps create a better lifestyle for themselves and their family,” Rodgers said. “But, it’s the short-term needs that are crucial.”

Among them, Rodgers said, are finding good jobs, getting job appropriate clothing, and securing daycare for their children. With 36 months of very little job growth in the United States and rising costs in health care, gas, and other everyday necessities, he said, single black mothers are just as stressed, if not more, than married and unmarried parents.

ABOUT SINGLE MOTHERS IN AMERICA

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A report by the U.S. Census Bureau shows that more than 80 percent of black single mothers have completed high school – an achievement that not only can aid them in raising families but one that goes a long way in debunking the stereotypes of single black mothers as welfare queens and drug abusers.

The number of single-mother families increased from three million in 1970 to 10 million in 2003, while the number of single-father families grew from less than 500,000 to 2 million. Of the 10 million single mothers, over 3.1 million are Black single mothers.

Why so many single mothers? The rise in single-parent households developed, the study claims, for three main reasons – a larger proportion of births occurring in unmarried women in the 1990s than in the 1960s and 1970s, the rise in divorce among couples with children as well as the increase in Black and Latina men leaving their families due to incarceration.

The U.S. Census Bureau released these statistics about Black Single Mothers in America based on data collected in a 2002 study:
Ø Approximately 1,169,000 black single mothers – or 37 percent – had graduated from high school only, compared to 2,235,000 or 35 percent – of white single mothers.
Ø The number of black single mothers with a bachelor’s degree or higher, 315,000, was significantly lower than that of white single mothers with comparable education, 904,000.
Ø Twenty percent of black single mothers in the study had been divorced, but 62 percent had never been married – suggesting that black single mothers – more than any ethnic group – were most likely to have never been married.
Ø Nearly one-third of all single mothers – 32 percent – live below the poverty line. However, the condition is more acute for black single mothers; 38 percent, or 1.2 million of 3.1 million black single mothers raise families below the poverty line

Non-Hispanic White 21%
Black or African American 66%
American Indian S
Asian and Pacific Islander 15%
Hispanic or Latino 52%
Total 35%

BLACK FATHERS, INVISIBLE MEN
By Dr. Vernon McClean
Even during the many decades of slavery, black fathers performed. “feminine tasks.”I n the opening paragraph of Ralph Ellison’s “Invisible Man,” published in 1952, the male narrator says that he is invisible “simply because people refuse to see me.” That is, “like the bodiless heads you see sometimes in circus sideshows, it is as though I have been surrounded by mirrors of hard, distorted glass.” And, “when they approach me they see only my surroundings, themselves, or figments of their imagination ñ indeed, everything and anything except me.”

Today, Satan text me. Trying to lure me back in after he tried to spew hate at me last week. I vowed to delete and block him from my life, period. And when the devil text, I ignored it. And I walked away. Thanking god for the strength. Amen. Good Nite.